Reducing Anxiety When Speaking English As A Foreign Language

By Christopher A. Hernandez

Public speaking is one of the most dreaded tasks we all encounter at one point in our life. Regardless if you are in school, college or work, Public Speaking is a task we all have to undergo. Fear of speaking in public ranks second among the most common phobias (spiders is number one). To put things in perspective, people are more scared of speaking in public than death, marriage or bankruptcy. This feeling is common among most of us. Everyone shares the anxious feeling when there is a perception of being evaluated.

People always experience the feeling of fear or being troubled before facing something that is challenging such as an examination, interview, test, and recital. Actually, these feelings are normal and can be easily justified. Anxiety is normal. It will become a problem if it interferes in your normal and regular daily activities. One of the most common symptoms of ineffective anxiety is the inability to sleep. If you can't continue life dealing with the public, you might suffer from a public speaking anxiety.Public speaking anxiety is commonly termed as stage fright or speech anxiety. Public speaking anxiety involves the feeling of fear to be evaluated or scrutinized by other people. The feeling of fear is always coming with several emotional and physical reactions that usually hinder the person's capability to deliver his presentation or speech successfully. Additional symptoms include an extreme feeling of anxiety, sweating, worry, shaking or trembling, nervousness, dizziness and fainting.

We start thinking of multiple fallacies that we need to reject by critical thinking The most common irrational thought is that everything will go wrong like forgetting the material or how people will judge you. This is known as the fallacy of catastrophe. This fallacy triggers our sympathetic nervous system, increasing blood pressure and heart rate. That is why when we are nervous we may have sweaty palms or tremble. Another irrational thought is the fallacy of approval.

Short-Term Treatments of Glossophobia.If this condition interferes in your life, it can be diagnosed as under the category of SAD. Fortunately, fear of public speaking can be managed easily. Short-term treatment includes cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and systematic desensitization. On the other hand, if you have a public speaking anxiety that causes you to experience significant distress, you need to ask a doctor for possible referrals to a psychologist. In addition to numerous traditional ,Many people feel very anxious when they are asked to speak publicly. Anxiety is a perfectly normal reaction to stressful situations, but for some, public speaking can cause more than just a fleeting anxiety attack. Learn some techniques to overcome normal and more serious feelings of anxiety.The famous author was due to deliver a short speech at a Women's Institute meeting. Now although he was very good with words when they were written down, he was not so confident with the spoken word. In fact, he was always quite anxious about making a speech.

The Chairwoman of the local Institute made a short welcoming speech and then introduced the author and the ladies clapped. He rose slowly to his feet and approached the microphone."Ladies," he began, "On my way here tonight, only God and I knew what I was going to say. Now, only God knows!" And he promptly left the stage!Anxiety about making speeches is far more common than you would think.There are many strategies that can be used to help deal with anxiety caused by having to deliver a speech. One of the major reasons for anxiety is being under prepared.If you are going to paint a door, let's say, then to do a really good job, you must prepare the surface well by rubbing it down with sandpaper. Then perhaps you need to seal the wood before applying undercoat and then one or maybe two coats of the gloss or matte paint.

OK, so we understand what causes the anxiety but how can we overcome it? Below are a few tips to help you in your next public speaking experience:Hello Anxiety!We all get nervous and you will get nervous before your next speech. Welcome the anxiety! The feelings that you are experiencing is a fear of performance. Tell yourself that it is OK to be nervous and that we are able to function with it.

About a week before the speech try to build up a positive image of yourself giving the speech really well. 'See' yourself standing confidently and relaxed in front of your audience. 'See' the audience listening intently to you and laughing naturally at your jokes. 'Listen' to the applause after the speech is finished. Do this several times a day for a week or so before the day of your speech.Now that you have done your preparation in the lead up to speech day, you can concentrate on helping yourself on the day.Relaxation techniques such as breathing deeply and slowly in and out as you are being introduced can be very good for putting your body at ease. Something else to try at the same time might be to tighten and slowly relax various muscle groups. Not necessarily in any order these might include; the thigh muscles, calf muscles, the muscles in your arms, shoulders and back. This should relieve any tension in your body so that you can concentrate on your delivery.

For instance, if we were in a situation where we stood embarrassed in front of our schoolmates without saying a word,--- that could be it. Even though we were not speaking in public, our brains perceived our fear just standing there in front of other people as we thought that we looked foolish and/or scared. In a nutshell - what happens to some of us during this type of incident is our brain links our intense negative feelings with merely standing in front of other people as they look at us. It almost sounds silly that deep fears that control us as adults often have such trivial moments of creation in childhood. Often they last only a minute, but it is a minute that can last a lifetime. I'm sure the people who initiated these terrible incidents in our lives so many years ago never think back to them or to us for that matter. They have no idea what they said or did during that incident had such a profound and lasting effect on us.Our fears may only be "in our head" but that's enough to make us react as we do to speaking in public and other anxiety-prone situations. I'm sure you already realize - it's pretty difficult to change what's "in our head" even if we can figure out why it's "in our head" to begin with and why we react as we do to perceived "threatening situations" such as speaking in public.

During a one-to-one conversation it's important to make eye-contact with the person you're having a conversation with. If you are too nervous or too shy to do this directly, a good technique to give the impression of 'eye-contact' is to look at the bridge of the nose of the person you are talking to. For them, it will look as though you're looking straight at their eyes. Try it with a friend. It works.Making 'eye-contact' with your audience is equally important. You can do this and still keep your composure by looking at the heads of individuals. Scan the audience as you speak, but instead of looking directly at their faces, look at the tops of their heads. This will give the impression of direct eye-contact with members of the audience without it being unpleasant for you.These techniques are useful for those people who have the normal feelings of anxiety that the majority of people have before delivering a speech. However, if your anxieties go deeper and are felt for much longer both before and after delivery of the speech, then there are extra helpful techniques that can be tried.

During the week leading up to the speech, try to imagine any negative thoughts you might have about giving the speech. Write down as many as you can, without thinking about anything else. Then go through your list and make a positive story to counteract each negative thought you wrote down. Add to your list as and when you think of other negative thoughts you might have.On the day of your speech, try to make sure that you counteract any negative thoughts you might have with the positive stories you made up in the week before speech day.Before going on stage, while waiting in the special room allocated to you if you have one, or maybe outside away from other people if you don't, you could try to explain away the 'butterflies' that we all have. Emphasise, for example, that they are not something emotional like being 'scared to death'. They are actually a physical reaction brought about by your brain's response to the stress that it detects. When someone is anxious the brain releases additional amounts of a chemical called adrenalin into the blood stream. This has the physical effect of making the stomach contract and interferes with digestion.

As I mentioned, it is adrenaline that creates our symptoms of fear and anxiety completely out of our control. But what if you could control the adrenaline your body creates- then you would be in control!! That is what my research discovered and that is what I can show you how to do - control the adrenaline your body creates by taking a safe, inexpensive and non-addictive medication. And once I show you, you can do it anytime you want, on demand - just 15 minutes before a speaking engagement or performance.No you don't and here's why - Taking the medication during public speaking engagements over a period of time, allows the brain to re-think how it feels about speaking in public. With the medication, each public speaking event will increase your confidence as you realize you don't look or feel frightened. Your brain will eventually understand that public speaking is not the threatening situation that it has assumed. The medication can make it much easier to transition through the period of fearing to speak in public and being confident to speak in public. Because of this, the medication should not be considered a "crutch", but rather a "training aid" that will allow you to re-train your brain to understand that speaking in public does not require an overabundance of adrenaline in order to survive.

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3 Tips For Getting More From The Science Of Getting Rich

By Margaret R. Ferguson

I read the little book that inspired the successful book and movie "The Secret" called "The Science of Getting Rich" by Wallace D. Wattles. It reminded me of the Universal Principles I learned decades ago. The book doesn't get into details of why the principles work. Instead, it is an application manual. How cool is that?

Besides some having slight changes of title, most, if not all of these edited and/or revised versions contain changes in the wording of the original book by Wallace D. Wattles ranging from minor to major in a so-called attempt to "modernize" and/or make it more "readable".

You can sometimes recognize these edited and/or revised versions of "The Science of Getting Rich" by a slight change in title from that of the original. Other times, you'll find someone has added his or her name as a co-author or editor of the book.

This program offers many hours of extensive information from one of the best minds in the business. The equivalent of 20 CD's worth of priceless knowledge. Combined with a workbook and interactive capability to communicate with others participating. All accessible instantly online. Extremely well produced, with with Rev. Michael Beckwith and Jack Canfield taking active roles, also two of the best in the business.Nothing of value is ever for free, however tremendous value is offered here for the price, which is quite affordable and 100% money back guaranteed. These people are very well known and bonafide. What price are you willing to pay for information allowing you to create freedom of time, choice, passion and money in your life? Is the price of a morning cup of coffee for a few months worth a chance to accomplish that? It was for me, and I listen to this material everyday- I like it that much.

"The Science of Getting Rich" insists that opportunity is not monopolized by the elite few. Opportunity abounds at every step of life. The difference between a wealthy person and a poor person is the way they act and think. Wealthy parents teach their children the Certain Way of doing things that made and keeps them wealthy.The author claims that there is an infinite supply of wealth. He says the universe is literally made up of "Formless Stuff" he calls "Original Substance" that acts upon any thought impressed upon it to manifest in the material world. It is the nature of the universe to move toward more life.

Ben Hogan, The best golfer in the world many times running:Early in his career was involved in a head on collision with a bus. Expected not to live on arrival at the hospital. He did. The best doctors in the country were flown in to save his life. When he did survive, it was the opinion of all he would never walk again. That was not Ben's opinion, however, and he asked that his golf clubs be brought into the room where he could see them as he would be using them again. He was advised not to expect this as would only become dissapointed and depressed. One year later he was the world's best golfer again.You get what you expect. You get what you put your power of thought into. Do you think that was easy for him? Not likely, but he believed. What he could see in his mind, he could hold in his hand. There was no possibility of otherwise when he focused his thought only on what he wanted. Not on what he didn't want, which would have brought him exactly that. He could not allow it.

His thoughts of walking became a habit. He believed he was part of a power bigger than himself, and expected his desire would have to be answered.His ability to achieve what he did is what Bob explains in this program, and much more. We all have such power of ability but get caught up in the day to day stuff and aren't aware anymore. Bob Proctor thinks we are waking up to this in large numbers, and is hoping to help through his work.Look out the window at the countryside. Every tree, blade of grass, leaf works perfectly all the time. Growing on it's own. The water flows in the creek. The planets circle in perfect order.

We have to become that person who has wealth in our minds before we can have that wealth in our hands. This is the beauty of the book, "The Science of Getting Rich". It makes that transformation more of a science than an art. We have more control of things that can be attained through a scientific or quantitative way. Before we can transform our minds, we have to first decide that it is something that we want to attain. A great chapter in this book is on the attitude of gratitude. We should be thankful of our blessings. This is conducive to transforming our minds to get rich.

"The Science of Getting Rich" is very similar to the classic book by Napoleon Hill entitled, "Think and Grow Rich". Just like Napoleon Hill, Wallace Wattles was fascinated and made a detail study of those who acquired and became wealthy. They had a different mindset and habits. That mindset and those habits are the difference that made them wealthy. They are discussed in this book.

In his opinion, you can do anything you want provided you think and act accordingly. He strongly believes that everyone has a right to lead a life they want and it is entirely in our hands to create it for us. For this purpose, one has to set a goal, actually write it down on a goal card, and then visualize success each day until one day it actually becomes a reality. Of course, such an approach requires a good deal of discipline and loads of positive thinking. It may not be always possible to ward off negative thoughts but one can always diminish the power of these thoughts making way for more constructive thoughts.He also believes that there is a season for sowing and reaping so that you can get the reward. You need to prepare the soil and cultivate the seed of idea so that it turns into reality one day. He offers personalized training to members of the SGR club during weekly meetings. The SGR seminars have also received an overwhelming response from people who have finally realized the importance of the Law of Attraction.

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All Time Great Love Stories.

By Chiquita Lacasse

Great love stories can touch your heart, make you laugh and move you to tears. Regardless if you are with the love of your life or still looking for your soul mate, a great love story pulls on the heartstrings. Here are a few of the most popular love stories of all time, plus a few new ones you may have missed.

Bronte's 'Wuthering Heights' tops most great love story lists. It's a classic story of how love can turn a man evil. Set in the early 1800's on the Wuthering Heights estate, the story focuses on the love of Heathcliff and his adopted sister Catherine. They are best friends and, by all accounts meant for each other. Unfortunately, an overheard, off-hand remark destroys their chance of happiness together.

'Anna Karenina' is often at the top of author's lists. The Tolstoy novel is essentially a literary soap opera. Seated atop Russian aristocracy, Anna is a married woman when she visits her brother Stiva in Moscow where she falls in love with Count Vronsky.

Anna fights her desires only to succumb and leave her husband. But he will not grant her a divorce and she spends her life trying to gain acceptance of her love affair. Ultimately, this proves too much for her.

'Romeo and Juliet' is perhaps the most eternal of tragic love stories and certainly among Shakespeare's most often told tales. It is the story of star-crossed lovers and the ultimate loss of love. The pivotal scene of Juliet on the balcony is the story of love captured in an image. They are meant for each other but cannot be together because of family dynamics beyond their control. Naturally, it does not end well.

Our short list of great love stories are all from the past. It seems only occasionally does a great contemporary love story break through to the bestseller lists. 'Cold Mountain' by Charles Frazier is one of the few. It bares striking similarities to 'Romeo and Juliet' complete with a tragic ending.

A more recent novel, 'Some Glad Morning' by Gary C. Horton is now climbing the bestseller charts and has a similar plot, but with several surprising twists. The lovers are kept apart by social status and the leading man must first establish himself.

However, Ransom is a destitute sharecropper's son and Elizabeth is the daughter of a wealthy Charleston planter. The author skillfully entertains as the story weaves through several unforeseen twists to ultimately arrive at a brilliant and heartwarming ending.

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Things To Know Before Hiring Services Of Business Bankruptcy Attorney Utah

By Megan Landry

When managing a company, you are likely to encounter a number of problems with the creditors. There are those times that a business will run into debts and this does not mean that it is not being managed inappropriately. When creditors are threatening to file a law suit, you should be smart and be a head of the game by hiring services of bankruptcy lawyers. When looking for business bankruptcy attorney Utah companies are advised to find these professionals by searching online.

When a business is faced with such situations, it is advised to find a reliable professional. What should be known is that insolvency process is very complicated. Hiring a lawyer seeks to help the business stay on its feet as well as serve the interests of the creditors.

The best way of getting legal services in this region is to search online as mentioned in the first paragraph. What you need to have when thinking of a web search is a precise keyword. When you use such a keyword, your search will bring a good number of websites of companies in the law industry. The kind of information you must aim for from these websites is area of specialization, contacts and the business name.

Because these services are widely used by companies these days, it is easy to acquire recommendations. Referrals should only come from people, or companies that have had experience in insolvency. These people will be able to give the necessary information that will lead to hiring the best attorney in the region.

After getting details of attorneys, you should begin a comprehensive back ground checks on each name offered. This should be done in order to get appoint the best lawyer in Utah. So after being offered endorsements, make sure that you do an independent research.

The first thing to consider checking when carrying out independent research is the experience of the attorney. Insolvency cases are very tough and it will require you to hire a very experienced legal professional to help with the process. To know that a legal professional is experienced in solving insolvency cases, look at his record of accomplishments and the number of years he has been solving these cases.

Specialization of the attorney is also something that you must not overlook when in need of these services. There are many lawyers and a number of them are involved in different fields of law. Whereas, you can get those who attend to every case, it is important to have one that is specialized in business bankruptcy cases.

The other aspect you need to consider when looking for business bankruptcy attorney Utah is the legal fees. The first consultation is always free and nobody should charge you for this. It is during the consultation that you must ask the attorney questions to find out if he is capable of handling the job accordingly. Among the things you should know is his legal fees and payment method. What you should avoid is lawyer who demands for advance payments.

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