If you think you could just learn a secret system or technique and be successful with girls, you're in for a rude awakening. You could remember a bunch of lines and routines and go out and approach girls. This will succeed only to start the ball rolling and get your foot in the door. To successfully pickup women, you need to emotionally involve a girl, and not just use mechanical techniques.
A lot of men have the mistaken belief that pickup techniques are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Inevitably though, effectively attracting a woman has to do with making an unique emotional connection between you 2. It's not just about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you have to adapt and adjust to the kind of individual she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is precisely what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have approached a woman and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are three main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Girl: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a C or K ?
Woman: K.
You: You serious? Haha, I don't want to speak with you anymore ...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a good friend, however every Kathy that spells it with a K I have actually ever met has been such a party girl. awful influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Routines and gimmicks.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. Among the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A girl will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest to you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her into your reality. This is done by engaging her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively engages her into the trick. Stuff like reading her mind or guessing the number she's thinking etc. works well to engage her emotions.
C) Reading and understanding her.
Girls will be irresistibly drawn to you if you understand them as an individual and acknowledge the kind of individual she is. The following is a sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I initially talked to you, you appeared kind of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those that observe and those who are observed, and you appear much more like the observer sort of person. I believe when people initially meet you, they'll believe you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you allow into your life are truly good people. But that's just a cover you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having fun, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and who genuinely understands you as a person.
This is among the most effective means to instantaneously emotionally engage a girl. This will quickly create powerful attraction in addition to connection. However, you actually have to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the boring talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions through the above techniques.
A lot of men have the mistaken belief that pickup techniques are just about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Inevitably though, effectively attracting a woman has to do with making an unique emotional connection between you 2. It's not just about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you have to adapt and adjust to the kind of individual she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is precisely what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have approached a woman and successfully opened the door, you have to immediately move into demonstrating your high value. In other words, you have to emotionally engage a woman and bring her into your reality. There are three main ways to do this:
A) Cocky/Funny.
This is acting cocky in a funny way. Not being outright rude or a clown, but being smart and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
Girl: Cathy.
You: Nice name, you spell that with a C or K ?
Woman: K.
You: You serious? Haha, I don't want to speak with you anymore ...
Woman: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a good friend, however every Kathy that spells it with a K I have actually ever met has been such a party girl. awful influences on my life ...
The most important aspect of the above interaction is not the cocky/funny itself but how you're bringing her into your reality. You are using a concept called, "push-pull." This is basically when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are establishing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Routines and gimmicks.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you can use to demonstrate your value. Among the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A girl will ooh and aah at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest to you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a woman with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her into your reality. This is done by engaging her and absorbing her into your magic trick. You do a trick that actively engages her into the trick. Stuff like reading her mind or guessing the number she's thinking etc. works well to engage her emotions.
C) Reading and understanding her.
Girls will be irresistibly drawn to you if you understand them as an individual and acknowledge the kind of individual she is. The following is a sample dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I initially talked to you, you appeared kind of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are two types of people in this world. Those that observe and those who are observed, and you appear much more like the observer sort of person. I believe when people initially meet you, they'll believe you're cold and distant but that's only because they don't know you. You experience the world through your emotions and just want to make sure that the people you allow into your life are truly good people. But that's just a cover you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having fun, you can let go and be yourself. And that's what you're looking for in life, i think, people who you can be real with and who genuinely understands you as a person.
This is among the most effective means to instantaneously emotionally engage a girl. This will quickly create powerful attraction in addition to connection. However, you actually have to be perceptive and thoughtful, which only comes with experience and skill.
The point of all these is to emotionally engage a woman. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you throw down has no meaning unless you engage a woman and make an emotional connection. Keep the boring talk to a minimum. As soon as you open the door and get in, immediately engage her emotions through the above techniques.
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