The Reason You Should Always Tell Yourself Rape Doesnt Define Me

By Diane Carter


People go through different horrors in life. While some folks give in and let their tragedy affect their characters, others are bold enough to speak out and let people know that they are not affected by things they cannot change. If you have gone through a traumatizing experience on the hands of rapists, below are the reasons you should stand strong and say that rape doesnt define me.

First, it was not your fault. There are things that people do willingly while others just happen without their consent. So, it would be insane if you beat yourself for the last of your time for something that you cannot even change. Hence if you are a victim or a survivor, ensure that you live a positive life and ensure that what transpired that time, does not affect you.

Also, if you keep thinking about what happened, you will always be shameful, and therefore you are not going to perform well in anything. Therefore, make certain that you do not let the occurrence determine your personality or how you think. There are people who have many things in their hearts such that they cannot be bold to stand and speak in front of others.

Some people were conceived as a result of rape. And yes, they live as if they are not normal people. Their lives are a total mess, and they think that they are unwanted in this world. To have a positive mindset, read the books and the articles of people who have gone through the same experience you are in. This gives you the confidence to move on.

Also, you ought to know that people understand you according to how you make them see you. If people think that the fact that you are raped is the reason you have a miserable life, they will always see you as a rape victim. However, if you show them that you care less about the incident, they will take it as a non-issue and move on. So, do not give people an opportunity to dictate your life.

By accepting the incidence affecting your well being, you are letting the criminals achieve their goal. The main reason people rape others is to inflict pain on them for the rest of their lives. This could happen as a result of revenge. Also, the only way to make them feel guilty instead of heroes it acting as if nothing changed in your life.

If you accept that the world people occupy is full of tragedies, then you will have all the reasons to overcome whatever happened. Remember, there are other tragedies that do not heal, but people still move on. For example, people lose their loved ones and children, but they still find reasons to live.

It is true that being raped leads to scars that will never heal for the rest of your life. This is regardless of whether you are a child or a grown up. However, accepting and living with it is far much better than beating yourself up and letting the incident affect your personality.




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