The Initial Approach is probably the most challenging and arguably the most important part of interacting with a brand-new woman. If you have a bad opening, you will never be able to approach women successfully. So the way you open a woman will either get you in the door to initiate your game or it will get you a messy rejection.
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women effectively is to work on your appearance, work on your self-confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how you can successfully open women. The opening is not actually too complex nor is it tough to pull off. There is essentially only 2 major things you need to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Always have something ready to say
A beautiful woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many, many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice purse." type of boring drivel. You have to distance yourself from the 1000's of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or interesting.
Considering that you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is wise to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with girls and is shown to work. Many of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" kinds and select some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so choose a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and women react well to them.
2) Body language and confidence.
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, intonation), and 7 % is actual words. This suggests that what you say is merely garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any girl and it will make a more friendly setting. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tone and slower speech patterns, can speed up comfort, trust, and attraction.
Give her negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head towards her. Turn your body towards her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based on solid attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you demonstrate high value because you don't come off as desperate or needy and are showing you do not need her attention or approval.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you have no idea ways to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it... Now you can:
Throw in some time constraint techniques such as, "Another thing before I go ..." or "I have only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, however I have to tell you..." and grab their number.
Move into A2 stage. This is where you hook them by flaunting your high value with such things as stories, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the discussion, etc.
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women effectively is to work on your appearance, work on your self-confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how you can successfully open women. The opening is not actually too complex nor is it tough to pull off. There is essentially only 2 major things you need to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Always have something ready to say
A beautiful woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many, many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice purse." type of boring drivel. You have to distance yourself from the 1000's of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or interesting.
Considering that you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is wise to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with girls and is shown to work. Many of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" kinds and select some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so choose a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and women react well to them.
2) Body language and confidence.
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, intonation), and 7 % is actual words. This suggests that what you say is merely garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any girl and it will make a more friendly setting. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tone and slower speech patterns, can speed up comfort, trust, and attraction.
Give her negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head towards her. Turn your body towards her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based on solid attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you demonstrate high value because you don't come off as desperate or needy and are showing you do not need her attention or approval.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you have no idea ways to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it... Now you can:
Throw in some time constraint techniques such as, "Another thing before I go ..." or "I have only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, however I have to tell you..." and grab their number.
Move into A2 stage. This is where you hook them by flaunting your high value with such things as stories, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the discussion, etc.
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