Girls are prone to low self esteem during their teenage years and this often causes them a lot of stress. It can be hard for a young girl to tackle her self esteem issues as it involves such a deep inner sense of poor self worth. However it is much easier for them to think in terms of stress relief and relaxing - which often leads to a change of self perception as a by-product!
It is always best to come up with your own personal stress relief routine as everyone is so individual in what works and what they like. However there are a few good places for most people to start.Understanding - The first step in personal stress relief is to know what stress really is and how it can affect your life. Try to take some time off to reflect on what situations in your life stress you out. You can start a diary and through writing down the daily events that get you going. This is particularly good for many teenage girls as they like the private journaling. Of course talking with a close friend or a family member about any issues is also a great way to deal with it.
Take photos together.Take her shopping for underwear together and later express how much you like the lingerie you would have bought together.Do things together like sports, outdoor activities or just taking a walk holding hands.Kiss her on her neck when out and about unexpectedly.Call her at around midday just to remind her how crazy you are about her.Express to her what you like in your relationship and what you would want her to do for you which will make her happy.Agree to experiment on new things sexually and socially.Ask her to write a list of ten things that she fantasizes about.Tell her how she looks sexy even in her pyjamas and how much you are attracted to her.Discuss how great certain sexual acts were and do them again and improve on them.Always remember to tell her how much you love her you can never say it enough.
The bottom line and the best advice I can give you about it is that know that true confidence and self esteem comes from inside and does not come from being eye candy which will disappear once we all reach a certain age. The trick is to realize looks are not everything.Self-Esteem Teenage Girls was created by teenagers for teenagers. We know how hard it is to be a teenager so our hope is to give back and to let you know that you are not alone and that you are beautiful no matter what!
When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since.When I reached 20 years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just like what happened when I was 14 years old!
The initial step in building self esteem back to a healthy level could possibly be the toughest. It requires total honesty with oneself. The mask of deception and false representations of oneself must be taken off and the individual must be able to see herself as open and bare.Some of the masks could be in the form of anger. Anger is a defense mechanism that could be used to protect against others from seeing what is really going on inside of a person. The anger mask is put on when the individual feels threatened in some way. To those on the other side of the mask, the persona of toughness is seen, when actually on the inside of the anger, fear resides. There is also the fear from the discovery of inadequacies being revealed. Beneath the "anger mask" sits vulnerability and perceived weakness.
Have some humanism!! Stop blaming women and men just because you haven't been able to get over your own problems surrounding new/old relationships! Instead, take a step back and recognise the truth about whats really going on. Every human being in this world is just living their lives the best way they know how.
Don't blame, judge or put yourself or anyone else down just because they are trying to play the cards they were dealt. Some people are prettier, some people are more aggressive, some people are shy and some people are more poor, but we all deal with life and our everyday problems the best ways know we can.
Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.
There is a mask that girls and women put on called the "beauty mask". This mask disguises the many flaws that lie beneath the make-up and name brand clothes. No amount of eye liner and mascara can ultimately hide what the eyes are truly saying. They are saying "I want you to believe that I am beautiful on the outside because if you really saw what I looked like underneath, you wouldn't think I was beautiful at all". Hiding behind the fabulous outfits, fancy beads, earrings, and makeup "beauty mask" is a shallow shield against the truth that screams "I want to love myself, but I don't!"The masks above are just some of the many masks that people wear. In improving self esteem, help your teenage daughter to discover and name the mask that she may be wearing. If you look close enough, you too may even discover that you wear a similar mask or have in the past. The road to self esteem building may be a journey you can take together. Like I said before, the first step is the most difficult because it calls for honesty and removal of the mask.
It is always best to come up with your own personal stress relief routine as everyone is so individual in what works and what they like. However there are a few good places for most people to start.Understanding - The first step in personal stress relief is to know what stress really is and how it can affect your life. Try to take some time off to reflect on what situations in your life stress you out. You can start a diary and through writing down the daily events that get you going. This is particularly good for many teenage girls as they like the private journaling. Of course talking with a close friend or a family member about any issues is also a great way to deal with it.
Take photos together.Take her shopping for underwear together and later express how much you like the lingerie you would have bought together.Do things together like sports, outdoor activities or just taking a walk holding hands.Kiss her on her neck when out and about unexpectedly.Call her at around midday just to remind her how crazy you are about her.Express to her what you like in your relationship and what you would want her to do for you which will make her happy.Agree to experiment on new things sexually and socially.Ask her to write a list of ten things that she fantasizes about.Tell her how she looks sexy even in her pyjamas and how much you are attracted to her.Discuss how great certain sexual acts were and do them again and improve on them.Always remember to tell her how much you love her you can never say it enough.
The bottom line and the best advice I can give you about it is that know that true confidence and self esteem comes from inside and does not come from being eye candy which will disappear once we all reach a certain age. The trick is to realize looks are not everything.Self-Esteem Teenage Girls was created by teenagers for teenagers. We know how hard it is to be a teenager so our hope is to give back and to let you know that you are not alone and that you are beautiful no matter what!
When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since.When I reached 20 years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just like what happened when I was 14 years old!
The initial step in building self esteem back to a healthy level could possibly be the toughest. It requires total honesty with oneself. The mask of deception and false representations of oneself must be taken off and the individual must be able to see herself as open and bare.Some of the masks could be in the form of anger. Anger is a defense mechanism that could be used to protect against others from seeing what is really going on inside of a person. The anger mask is put on when the individual feels threatened in some way. To those on the other side of the mask, the persona of toughness is seen, when actually on the inside of the anger, fear resides. There is also the fear from the discovery of inadequacies being revealed. Beneath the "anger mask" sits vulnerability and perceived weakness.
Have some humanism!! Stop blaming women and men just because you haven't been able to get over your own problems surrounding new/old relationships! Instead, take a step back and recognise the truth about whats really going on. Every human being in this world is just living their lives the best way they know how.
Don't blame, judge or put yourself or anyone else down just because they are trying to play the cards they were dealt. Some people are prettier, some people are more aggressive, some people are shy and some people are more poor, but we all deal with life and our everyday problems the best ways know we can.
Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.
There is a mask that girls and women put on called the "beauty mask". This mask disguises the many flaws that lie beneath the make-up and name brand clothes. No amount of eye liner and mascara can ultimately hide what the eyes are truly saying. They are saying "I want you to believe that I am beautiful on the outside because if you really saw what I looked like underneath, you wouldn't think I was beautiful at all". Hiding behind the fabulous outfits, fancy beads, earrings, and makeup "beauty mask" is a shallow shield against the truth that screams "I want to love myself, but I don't!"The masks above are just some of the many masks that people wear. In improving self esteem, help your teenage daughter to discover and name the mask that she may be wearing. If you look close enough, you too may even discover that you wear a similar mask or have in the past. The road to self esteem building may be a journey you can take together. Like I said before, the first step is the most difficult because it calls for honesty and removal of the mask.
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