The first and foremost step to attracting a woman is the cold approach. To most men, the cold approach is one of the most nerve wracking thing you can do, ahead of even public speaking. This is completely out of our comfort zone and requires a different type of courage than jumping out of planes or wrestling crocodiles.
Bad news is that the cold approach is one of the most nerve shattering and uncomfortable things you can do. Worse, if somehow you work up the courage to awkwardly approach a hottie, the subsequent stare, snicker, and rejection will completely devastate your ego and will to live.
The good news is that this fear can be reduced and conquered through enough practice. Given enough experience and practice, even the agonizing shame of rejection will start to lessen and altogether disappear until the day comes when you rarely get rejected at all.
Seducing Women: The Prerequisites
1) Confidence
The #1 most crucial component to picking up women that all seduction gurus, relationship experts, and pickup artists agree upon is confidence. The #1 quality that women look for in men is not the appearance, charm, or even money, it is confidence.
A man with money, power, and self-esteem will naturally exude confidence. Therefore, if a man exudes confidence, it is implied that he has power, money, and self-esteem. It is this implication and not the actuality that will initially attract a woman. Because how will she know how much money you have upon first meeting besides the way you present yourself?
First prerequisite to attracting a woman is to build confidence, confidence, and more confidence.
2) Grooming
If you groom like a slob, dress like a slob, and look like a slob, then you will feel like a slob, act like a slob, and be generally unattractive to women. Any man, with proper fashion, grooming, exercise, and effort can be presentable. Just like if an average looking woman takes care of herself really well, like in those makeover shows, the effect is dramatic.
This entails shaving, deodorant,showers, laundry, haircuts, shopping, gym time, and most importantly, effort. There is something special about looking good. If you look good, then you feel good. If you feel good, then you're confident. And if you're confident, you radiate a certain something that is very attractive to women.
Don't just look good when you have a date either. Always look your best when you go out because you don't know just when there will be a golden opportunity
"Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity." -Seneca-
3) Communication Skills
You manage to strike up a conversation with a beautiful woman without getting laughed or chased away. You guys are laughing, having a good time, and making a connection, when suddenly, you run out of things to talk about. She looks at you first with expectation, then with disappointment, then with disinterest, finally followed by the dreaded back turn. Game over...
The attraction game is like a sales pitch, you have a limited amount of time to sell yourself, and if you don't make a good pitch in that time, then you don't make the sale and you go home alone. Even if you don't have the gift for blabbery, you can learn this crucial skill.
You cannot take a magic pill to magically discover this ability, it takes effort and constant practice. If you're an introvert and do not really like chatting with complete strangers, you simply have to learn to "turn it on" when the circumstance calls for it.
Practice starting up innocent talks with random people throughout the day. This will build your confidence for when it matters.
4) Body Language
55% of communication is visual which means that over half of what we say to others, we say with our body. Even when you're saying something, the body can be communicating something else.
Knowledge of body language is critical because women have a strong sense of instinct, what we refer to as a BS meter. If your words are badass but your body is saying you're scared, girls will pick up on that and it's game over.
Someone versed in body language can observe a man trying to pick up a woman and predict whether he's going to be successful or not. He can also gauge the interest level of the woman and the actual quality of the man.
Yes, this is a great deal of info and a whole lot of skills to master, but like any type of ability, it will take practice and work. And like any kind of pertinent ability, there are no shortcuts, the journey is hard, but the rewards are wonderful.
Bad news is that the cold approach is one of the most nerve shattering and uncomfortable things you can do. Worse, if somehow you work up the courage to awkwardly approach a hottie, the subsequent stare, snicker, and rejection will completely devastate your ego and will to live.
The good news is that this fear can be reduced and conquered through enough practice. Given enough experience and practice, even the agonizing shame of rejection will start to lessen and altogether disappear until the day comes when you rarely get rejected at all.
Seducing Women: The Prerequisites
1) Confidence
The #1 most crucial component to picking up women that all seduction gurus, relationship experts, and pickup artists agree upon is confidence. The #1 quality that women look for in men is not the appearance, charm, or even money, it is confidence.
A man with money, power, and self-esteem will naturally exude confidence. Therefore, if a man exudes confidence, it is implied that he has power, money, and self-esteem. It is this implication and not the actuality that will initially attract a woman. Because how will she know how much money you have upon first meeting besides the way you present yourself?
First prerequisite to attracting a woman is to build confidence, confidence, and more confidence.
2) Grooming
If you groom like a slob, dress like a slob, and look like a slob, then you will feel like a slob, act like a slob, and be generally unattractive to women. Any man, with proper fashion, grooming, exercise, and effort can be presentable. Just like if an average looking woman takes care of herself really well, like in those makeover shows, the effect is dramatic.
This entails shaving, deodorant,showers, laundry, haircuts, shopping, gym time, and most importantly, effort. There is something special about looking good. If you look good, then you feel good. If you feel good, then you're confident. And if you're confident, you radiate a certain something that is very attractive to women.
Don't just look good when you have a date either. Always look your best when you go out because you don't know just when there will be a golden opportunity
"Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity." -Seneca-
3) Communication Skills
You manage to strike up a conversation with a beautiful woman without getting laughed or chased away. You guys are laughing, having a good time, and making a connection, when suddenly, you run out of things to talk about. She looks at you first with expectation, then with disappointment, then with disinterest, finally followed by the dreaded back turn. Game over...
The attraction game is like a sales pitch, you have a limited amount of time to sell yourself, and if you don't make a good pitch in that time, then you don't make the sale and you go home alone. Even if you don't have the gift for blabbery, you can learn this crucial skill.
You cannot take a magic pill to magically discover this ability, it takes effort and constant practice. If you're an introvert and do not really like chatting with complete strangers, you simply have to learn to "turn it on" when the circumstance calls for it.
Practice starting up innocent talks with random people throughout the day. This will build your confidence for when it matters.
4) Body Language
55% of communication is visual which means that over half of what we say to others, we say with our body. Even when you're saying something, the body can be communicating something else.
Knowledge of body language is critical because women have a strong sense of instinct, what we refer to as a BS meter. If your words are badass but your body is saying you're scared, girls will pick up on that and it's game over.
Someone versed in body language can observe a man trying to pick up a woman and predict whether he's going to be successful or not. He can also gauge the interest level of the woman and the actual quality of the man.
Yes, this is a great deal of info and a whole lot of skills to master, but like any type of ability, it will take practice and work. And like any kind of pertinent ability, there are no shortcuts, the journey is hard, but the rewards are wonderful.
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